Not a great day today as we all went to my brother's funeral. He died 6 weeks ago but due to a hold up at the mortuary, and with the post mortem, the funeral took a long time to arrange. The minister at the church he attended did a lovely reading and also attended the cremation. This was all free of charge as my brother was a regular church attender and steward. The church was almost full of his friends who attended that church, which was lovely for our family. One of the parishioners made a donation to the minister to cover his expenses. We zigzagged across town - from home to church to crematorium and to a local pub afterwards. My brother had serious mental health problems which were triggered by drug use but probably hereditary. However, he was a very kind and caring person and this really showed in the speech the minister gave today. I have 3 sisters but he was the only brother. One of his friends asked me what happened to his things, and then asked his carer if he got anything which I did feel was inappropriate to discuss today. Perhaps I am a bit prim and proper but didn't feel it was the sort of thing to ask straight after a church service for someone who had died.
My sisters arranged the funeral service etc. as to be honest their ways are not mine, so rather than rock the boat and cause trouble I decided to back out of it and let them carry on. There were several things I would have done differently but that was their way.
Ending on a positive note daughter let her toddler go to her boyfriend's mum and adult sister for the day so she could come with us. This is a first, as the only people to look after the little one are me and husband, her best friend once for a few hours and my DIL for one day! She is very protective of the toddler and I feel it did her good to be left with boyfriend's mum, to be with other people and helped her socialisation. They had a lovely day, bought her toys, took her to a park and really enjoyed having her which is really nice. Unfortunately the child's biological father and all his family do not want any contact with her atm. so its great that her boyfriend's family have accepted her. We had a house full early evening as both sons, DIL, and nephew came here afterwards.
Bye for now All the best x
My brother left and my niece's late father right
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